Home Life

September 27, 2012

_DSC0210_DSC0197P1020071_DSC0174_DSC0107
Earlier this spring/summer, this thing was going around in the blog world, people getting disenchanted with the facade of 'perfect lives' and folks were either getting angry with some blogs for perpetuating this perfect life idea or apologizing for making people feel that way.

Every time I saw a blog discussing this issue, I would always leave a comment saying, 'Don't stop! I like your pretty pictures! If I want to see a dirty laundry basket, I'll look at my own, with the bras sitting on the top and if I want to see someone's mess, I'll go take a peek at my kitchen sink filled with rapidly congealing leftover breakfast food. No thanks!'

There's a lot of sadness, illness, frustration, and true unhappiness in the world. If I can in the smallest way make someone smile, or call attention to a pretty flower turning colors in the sun, or inspire someone to celebrate their own baking accomplishments, or help find a book that will make a kid happy, well then I'm gonna to. (That's a Melissa-ism. I snagged it from a neighbor boy who used to tell his mother, "I'm not gonna to" when he didn't want to do what he was told. Hilarious!)

I could document myself paying bills, or vaccuming up cat litter, or take a picture of my mouth guard sitting in cleaning fluid, but why would anyone want to see that?? I can promise you that you do not want to see the PIT OF DESPAIR that is my car. (Actually you might. That would be entertaining!) Wouldn't you rather see a picture of cake? I would. Friends, I've got issues. (oh my. of so many flavors. pick an issue. I might have it! anxiety? got it. PMS? yes. all month long PMS? more yes. hypochondria? yessee. real health probs? yessir.) Everyone has issues. But I like to escape from my issues sometimes, and I think blogs (and Pinterest) are the perfect vehicle to achieve that end.

Also, here's my laundry basket. No bras. Just my kiddo's cute Ikea duvet. I think it looks very pretty! And please notice how my child signed her nature leaf collage. DON'T YOU LOVE IT?




18 comments:

  1. Lovely post! I agree, sometimes we want to escape, and why not?

    And I LOVE the nature collage, and Julia's signature on said collage. Too cute!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Isn't that hilarious? She has a full blown OBSESSION! Saw your Andy Williams tribute, that was wonderful. Sad about him :(

      Delete
  2. I heart this post! I so agree with you and your photos are beautiful!!! Spread beauty and love! And yay for how Miss J signed her collage :D

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Spread beauty and love! What a wonderful motto :)

      Delete
  3. Well said! It's better to be inspired than dragged through the muck. Julia is such a character! What a funny girl- does she request to be addressed as Merida too? darling!

    loved your book list yesterday! our holiday book list is coming up next week and only a couple of repeats of yours- I love seeing what books come up that are new to me, and quite a few were. such fun! can't wait to see the ones you own. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. She is a funny, funny girl. This morning we had to wake her up, usually she is up like a light at 6:45 or 7. Today we had to wake her at 7:30 (I think she might be getting a small sniffle) -- she was so mad! "You woke me up to make me SAD!" Uh no, sweetie. We woke you up to get you ready for school. Then I moved from the position I had been holding her in. "You took away my pillow!" After looking all around, I realized she was talking about me, I was her pillow. Oh she was just not a happy camper this AM!

      Yes, she often requests to be called Merida :)

      Can't wait to see your book list!!!!!!!!!

      Delete
  4. That is what I noticed first--Merida!! She is awesome! I want to hug her. I'm with you--no "real life" on blogs for me. I can see enough of that here. Just pretty pictures and lovely things, thank you. Although, I do enjoy a good laugh, so if it's funny and real life, then that's okay. ;)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Want to know the funniest thing I've come across lately? The blog, 'Crappy Pictures' -- it's HILARIOUS! Like the site Hyperbole and a Half but focused on parenting life. She's going to have book published too, of her work and drawings! It's really, really funny :)

      Delete
  5. Love that Julia signs her name Merida, but does she do that on her school work? Saffron is obsessed with Merida too. Last year Saffron started signing her name Milli (from Team Umizoomi). And yes she signed it on her school work once too. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. ha ha ha! Nope, she doesn't sign her name at school that way. But if she could, she prolly would :)

      Delete
  6. Love this post...so real!! And yes, I can relate to PMS all month long!! I am actually looking forward to menopause some day and saying bye bye to monthly PMS!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Miss J, I AM SO WITH YOU. I am really hoping menopause (which came to my mom and grandma before age 45!) will be a kinder stage of life...hope hope)

      Delete
  7. LOL @ the pit of despair, that sounds like my car too! I like both types of blog posts - escape ones and real ones. The real ones help me to know I'm not alone. Like you mentioning your anxiety - nice to know someone else with some of the same issues! :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh me too, don't get me wrong, I like knowing I'm not alone and coincidentally, I just checked on blog I haven't clicked on in ages and her blog is really really dreamy and lovely (Coco Rose Diaries) and she wrote a great post about all that is driving her crazy right now in her life and how she hates this time of year and it makes her depressed.

      I guess I just never get the feeling like Oh that person's life is perfect even with their perfect home and crafts and clothes -- I just know better! I know everyone behind the blogs are real people with real problems.

      I think I have a heightened sense of this because I followed Stephanie Nielson's blog so closely (Nie Nie Dialogues) -- I thought she had a perfect life. She looked perfect, she dressed perfectly, her home was perfect and even with all this perfection, she still came off as a sweetheart who lives to love her family. And then she had her accident and has survived the very depths of human existence. It really drove home how anyone, at any time, can have their world decimated.

      As far as anxiety goes, well it's an evil beast that I battle all the time and have for the past 20 years. Sometime I should do a post all about it, I've been having a stronger and stronger need to discuss it.

      Delete
  8. Awesome post! And gorgeous photos (even the laundry basket looks cool!). I agree, most of the time I NEED to see pretty things to get motivated and feel warm and fuzzy. So much scary stuff in the world and seeing something/somewhere/someone lovely counteracts that for me. Plus, my house is a disaster. I've come to accept that having a 5 year old boy, a husband, a baby, a dog and cat, my house will NEVER be clean again. With the little time I have right now, I'm so grateful that I have wonderful blogs like yours that compact pretty things for me so I don't have to search for them! Yay!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I have come to be so much more at peace with mess then I ever thought possible :) -- I actually kind of like it now -- I try to deep clean before a relative comes to town or we go out of town or before major holidays, and that's about it these days!

      I have seen in the past 48 hrs about a half dozen videos snips, other blog posts etc, all sort of conveying this same idea -- I think something about this time of year is affecting everyone's collective subconscious, I really do! But the basic gist is to be kind to ourselves and others, and be aware of the love in your life b/c you never know when it might all be gone.

      Delete
  9. Melissa, this is such an awesome post. I enjoy those pretty blogs too, mostly for inspiration and because... well... my home simply isn't that perfect and it's fun to indulge in the fantasy of glorious homes every once in a while! ;) We're all doing our best in this crazy life. The trick is to remember to be grateful for our blessings and not allow the things that bring us down to dominate our lives so much that we lose focus on the beauty, the blessings, the small treasures of our lives.

    xoxo

    Michelle

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. You have the heart and words of a poet Miss Michelle. The blessings and the small treasures. Yes yes! xoxoxo

      Delete

Comments TOTALLY make my day! Let's keep everything friendly and polite and 'use our tea party manners :)

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...